Pleasure and shame

You should never have to feel ashamed of your own pleasure. It makes you feel guilty, dirty or causes you to shut down right when you should be feeling most alive!!!

​It is normal to feel this way. We grew up in a world where pleasure is a taboo and sensuality, seggsuality is treated like a secret. You feel shame because you were taught that your natural needs might be judged or rejected.

I felt this strong before I started shadow and archetypes work. We were not taught how to feel, we were taught how to hide to stay safe.

​When shame comes it is okay to ask for what is yours. You can be both kind and clear with yourself about your needs. By slowing down and acknowledging that your desires are valid, you stop fighting against your own body and start allowing yourself to simply exist in the moment.

​Maybe you think there is something wrong with you because you cannot enjoy yourself fully. Or you feel like a bad person just for wanting something. These doubts are just how we were taught and programmed. 

The collective and unrealistic images from porn only teach us how to perform. This performance leaves us feeling empty because we focus on how we look instead of what we actually feel.

​Drop the act. Imagine enjoying your body as you are. No expectations or pressure to achieve anything. Allowing yourself to feel your sensuality, seggsuality will make you feel fulfilled.

Performing will make you feel empty. 

It is up to you how you want to feel!!!